Have you lost it?

In the realm of "love" or relationships the first stage would be attraction, then  infatuation,  as time passes, most people go into a period of adjustment (or the assertion themselves) and trying to adjust (change) the other person to try to make (force) them to become more like you and finally comes either acceptance and appreciation for the other person as they truly are (actually, it is how they were, because you probably were not able to change them and still have them liking you) aka love or you don't submit to this maturation and get a divorce or end the relationship.  The time spent in each of these stages will vary because, some of us are too stubborn or stupid to learn the lessons of life.  In our pride of needing to be right, most never get through the attempting to change the other person stage and will continue to move from relationship to relationship.  This is the same period of time if we would only look at changing our self instead of the other person growth and maturity can blossom within us and any relationship.
   We use these same patterns of behavior in most relationships. I have seen it in platonic, love and business relationships.  This is also true in the church world and also how it is with our relationship with God.
   I am afraid that the declaration of our church age, as a whole, may be not that we left our first love, but that we never took the time to find it!
   In our relationship with the Father, we delighted in the deliverance from our problems and guilt through Jesus Christ (attraction).  We regularly attended services, and devoured our Bibles (infatuation).  Then the problems start, we see the faults of others and the short comings of the organizational church, and with our active flesh and pride (and like faults or sins)  start wanting God to change so we don't have to.  Seeing that He doesn't change, we then find another group that will believe differently so we can remain unchanged or leave and abandon the church and/or Him altogether.  We then miss out on the best part of all relationships, where we can actually enjoy not only the other person but our own self.  Here we sit in the divorce stage making up doctrine and beliefs to justify ourselves so we don't have to do the work of change (which really isn't that hard, if you will just submit yourself to Him.  He will do the change in you* and all you need to do is say "Yes".)
  Infatuation is good but, matured love is better!  This is the agape love we hear about, but not see very often.

*More on change later