Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Looking Quite Insane

I recently read a quote online that I liked... Angela Monet said, "Those who danced look quite insane to those who didn’t hear the music."  I wanted to see who she was, so I went a Googling.   I found out she basically didn't exist, but someone had attributed the quote to her and it got repeated by others. So there it sits on the web, she seems to be a fairly well quoted but Angela walked with God and was not.  Nonetheless, I still like the quote.  While trying to find her I saw another quote that resonated with me, by Benjamin Jowett "You must believe in God in spite of what the clergy (or most clergy, my input) say." and no I am not going to see if Ben exists or existed.  
  Anyway back to Angela... I have had people say things about me like "Oh you're just traveling a different road" or "You've been given a special experience".   If that's the case, so be it, but I don't believe that is true.  Back a few years and possibly a decade ago I was reading a book, I think on getting answers to prayer or praying, it was talking about someone that instead of just praying about something, the first thing he did was to get into the tangible presence of the Father. Then while praying, he would find the direction to pray or find that the request should be changed.  He found by doing this a large number of his requests were being answered. Around the same time I was hearing people on recordings talk about "soaking" or just sitting before the Father in silence, I also had in the back of my mind a book that I had read several times called The Hidden Life of Prayer  (which is an old book that is now on the web for free) in which it described the prayer life of several people who lived long ago 1800-1930s.  These all had a common thread, sitting quietly before God, often in a specific room or an actual closet.  Even though I had always been "too busy", I decided it was time to set aside some time and do it.
   I started with 10-20 minutes in the morning, with my favorite music (and often just one song on repeat) playing softly, I would stand, sit or lay down and try to be quiet in body and mind (the laying down one was the easiest because I would often fall asleep). After several weeks of not really gaining anything, or so it seemed, and a friend that was doing the same was seeing visions and such (very discouraging, at the time) I kept going.  Probably about the fourth week I started noticing His strong tangible presence around me.  By this time I had gone from 15 minutes of sleep and boredom, to over an hour of quietly waiting before Him.  Yep, just standing there in a fairly dark room (less distraction) with music playing and me being quiet, sometimes with my arms raised, but His presence was, at times, too much to handle.  It wasn't that I was on some special path that was destined for me, it was that I had put in time cultivating my relationship with the Father and He was rewarding me with His great tangible love and presence.  I am sure that if someone had been watching me they would think I was quite insane, but they of course could not "hear the music" or feel His presence.  I would come back to that quiet spot in the middle of the night or start to get caught up before meetings and not want to leave.  The thing was I was being changed without any other effort.  People (including my family) started noticing too.
   It is not taught or caught by the laying on of hands, it is in the doing.


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Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Dr Phils "Evil Eight" (three important lists)

I ran across the first of these three lists and looked up another source and found the last two.
Some, actually more than some, items are ones that I personally and many others have experienced and fought through to see the Truth and the Light at the end of the tunnel .
To him that overcomes...

Dr. Phil's Evil Eight
Arrogant entitlement
Lack empathy
No remorse/guilt
Irrational/self-destructive
Thrive on drama
Brag about outsmarting
Short term relationships (goes through trusted staff frequently, my note)
Fantasy world/delusional



Signs of a Cult
  1. Absolute authoritarianism without meaningful accountability.
  2. No tolerance for questions or critical inquiry.
  3. No meaningful financial disclosure regarding budget, expenses such as an independently audited financial statement.
  4. Unreasonable fear about the outside world, such as impending catastrophe, evil conspiracies and persecutions.
  5. There is no legitimate reason to leave, former followers are always wrong in leaving, negative or even evil.
  6. Former members often relate the same stories of abuse and reflect a similar pattern of grievances.
  7. There are records, books, news articles, or television programs that document the abuses of the group/leader.
  8. Followers feel they can never be "good enough".
  9. The group/leader is always right.
  10. The group/leader is the exclusive means of knowing "truth" or receiving validation, no other process of discovery is really acceptable or credible. 

Ten signs of a safe group/leader.

  1. A safe group/leader will answer your questions without becoming judgmental and punitive.
  2. A safe group/leader will disclose information such as finances and often offer an independently audited financial statement regarding budget and expenses. Safe groups and leaders will tell you more than you want to know.
  3. A safe group/leader is often democratic, sharing decision making and encouraging accountability and oversight.
  4. A safe group/leader may have disgruntled former followers, but will not vilify, excommunicate and forbid others from associating with them.
  5. A safe group/leader will not have a paper trail of overwhelmingly negative records, books, articles and statements about them.
  6. A safe group/leader will encourage family communication, community interaction and existing friendships and not feel threatened.
  7. A safe group/leader will recognize reasonable boundaries and limitations when dealing with others.
  8. A safe group/leader will encourage critical thinking, individual autonomy and feelings of self-esteem.
  9. A safe group/leader will admit failings and mistakes and accept constructive criticism and advice.
  10. A safe group/leader will not be the only source of knowledge and learning excluding everyone else, but value dialogue and the free exchange of ideas. 

Saturday, December 29, 2012

Okay Then...

Okay, this is going to be incomplete but I thought it more than worth putting out for you to see.  I was given a book for Christmas.  I opened it up to start to read the forward...  first of all, the name of the book is These are the Generations  by Bea and Foley.  It is about a North Korean couple...I think, after all I am barely into the forward.  Here are the first two paragraphs.

  When my wife and I speak about North Korea at events in the West, people always ask us, "How can we pray for the North Korean Christians?"  So we asked a group of North Korean underground Christians that question, they answered, "Pray for us? We pray for you!" 
  When we asked why, they replied, Because Christians in the West still have some wealth and freedom and power.  Most have not yet experienced what it is like when all you have in this life is God."

 When I considered this, my first response was, "Well that crosses all of us off the Christian list... so we have to get poor and helpless" (a semi-sarcastic thought)... just being honest.  Then I thought of all that we do have that takes the place of  true relationship, things like: cellphones (you know the type that you play games on, text and get on the web with), including Androids, Ipads, Ipods, tablets,etc. That is besides the computers, laptops, game cubes, Nintendos, not to mention the tv, dvds, movie theaters, restaurants, all the entertainment and recreation areas that are available to us at a drop of a hat... how much more should I list.  The worst of us still have more than 90% of the rest of the world.
 Our time is divided, with all the gadgets that we possess to save time we should have 34-36 extra hours in each day, just waiting and wanting for things to do.  I bet most of us could go without prayer, meditation or even worship for a week and feel okay.  Most however, would be going through withdrawal symptoms if we had no internet connection or entertainment for that same week.  SELAH (stop and think about it for a while)


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Thursday, December 27, 2012

Man, Oh Man

A few years ago, actually a couple more than just a few, I was working with a friend who was contracted to build addition.  The owner took care of some of her grandchildren.  One, in particular, was a little 2-3 year old boy who didn't have the largest vocabulary in the world.  As a matter of fact, to the best of my knowledge, he only had a one word vocabulary... "MAAAAAAAAAAN!".  To get the full extent of the his WORD you have to say it with a heavily nasally sound and hold it for 4-5 seconds and he said it quite loudly.  He loved to watch me, though he was on the inside of the house, I could easily hear him.   He would pause several seconds between repeating his exclamation of  "Maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan!".   I must have heard it hundreds upon hundreds of times that morning.  At lunch I complained to my fellow workers, who had been working elsewhere, that I was going nuts and was absolutely losing it and needed a move to different area or I would be killing something or somebody by the end of the day.  They all laughed and was told "To suck it up.  It couldn't be all that bad.  He is just impressed with you and likes you."   God had mercy on my soul and he went down for a nap shortly after lunch.
   I was away on another job for several days, upon my return the leader of the project came to me saying that he was sorry.  While away he was finishing around the area where I was "maaaaaaaaaaaanned" to death.  Needless to say, I was afraid of that, because I had noticed a new twitch in one of his eyes and a continual drool coming from the corner of his mouth.
  Its an easy thing to judge someone when you don't realize the extent of their life, but you can do the right thing and pray and support them without knowing everything.  Being critical is easy.  To support and lift them up without reward is a bit harder and is being a more mature person.

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Monday, December 24, 2012

The Only Way to Celebrate Christmas

  What is the most important thing to do this Christmas season?  Getting all our shopping done?  Getting all the decorations up?  Getting the house all cleaned before everyone starts to come over?  Getting all the food ready and on time?   Sorry, if these were any of your answers you were and are wrong.  "Ah", you say, "the most important thing you should be doing is bringing Christ into the Christmas season."  "You are wrong, eggnog breath!"  At least in the way you mean it.
  What you celebrate and  how you celebrate really don't matter in the least.  I really don't want to get into the debate about Santa, Jesus and the tree and which is which. However, the most important thing about this and every Christmas season are you attitudes.  That is right!  It is letting your love and your representation of the Christ show forth.  Your demanding of  having it your way and pouting that you only got to sing  one Christmas carol after singing about Rudolf, Saint Nick and White Christmas is what stinks and brings shame.  Maybe it was your shortened temper on display, for all to see and they did see it, when you went off on someone because things weren't going right in the kitchen or store or even on the road.  Take a deep breath relax, do without that extra pie, arrive ten minutes late, give one less or even all gifts.  What people will remember is not the lack of something or even that perfect gift you got them, but rather your meltdown over the mashed potatoes or unlit candles. 
  Try celebrating Christmas by representing the one you supposedly celebrate Christmas for!  Hmm, now that's a thought worth giving.


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Saturday, December 22, 2012

What did you say?

It has been almost 25 years since we moved to Kentucky.   When a Kentuckian asks me, "When did you move here?", the easiest way to convey it is to reply, "The year Rick Pitino came to UK", as the  head basketball coach (he is now regarded as the traitorous wretch that now coaches the Lousy-ville Cardinals).  Being here this long, I have lost my northern accent and ways.  According to the locals I am not quite there, yet (Milea has assimilated much more quickly).  From the outside Kentucky is known for (listed in no particular order):  Bourbon (named for the area or specific counties it is created in), horses, tobacco, hillbillies with missing teeth and the uneducated.  From the inside, KY should be known for (listed in a particular order):  college basketball, horses, Bourbon, tobacco, friendly people and, I would like to add, the hard of hearing.  I am not sure if it is hereditary or environmental, I am leaning to the latter.  A lot of people feel that KY could easily have the license plate "The land of Allergies".  I am not sure, but this may be the cause of the deterioration to our hearing, the allergies causing more fluids in the ear canals thus more  "plugage", drainage  and possible excess production of ear wax.  When our kids were small we found that they were getting hard of hearing and upon closer inspection we found their ears were almost or completely closed off with wax.
  Today, I was talking to a man who was walking down the street, he replied to me, "What did you say?" and then went on to answer my question without me clarifying.  I recognized this pattern, as I have found this in my own life, and NO, I don't think its just cause I am getting old! Can you say "ALLERGIES?"  Phillip's wife, Kaitlin, insists we, in particular me, speak too softly (and carry a big stick, my interjection) she seems to have succumbed.
  Further proof of this hearing condition follows... from the outside upon talking to some "locals" you may get the impression that they are unedjumecated, but in reality, I believe, it is just a hearing condition that has led to a mispronunciation problem.
Bardstown Road... is often pronounced "Bargetown"
Across...  often is pronounced "accrost"
I heard recently that someone cut "the amBiblical cord" on their new baby
Also heard a lady at WalMart ask for help in finding a printer "cartlage"  (not believing my ears, I followed the conversation and found it repeated)
I recently saw a Craigs List ad... "Almost Brain New Laptop"  (add a southernish twang to that and you'll understand)
While talking to a man, he related that "There was a bad accident and both cars were in the 'medium'."
We also have 'Chimley' or sometimes 'Chimbley' sweeps  Also saw a hand printed sign on a truck door advertising "Chimley Repair"
Recently...  "Lets sing a 'hymnal'" (it took us all night)
And there are many more...
 I have noticed, thanks to Anna's husband Steven, (who seems to talk quietly and very fast, and if it were not for my lightening fast brain that is somehow able to process and analyze the sounds that come out while he talks and even though there seems to be a delay in my understanding, often 5-10 seconds behind him finishing)  I also need some ear cleaning and have succumbed to living in KY.
Beyond my theory of hearing loss... I have absolutely no 'ideal'.


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Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Have you lost it?


In the realm of "love" or relationships the first stage would be attraction, then  infatuation,  as time passes, most people go into a period of adjustment (or the assertion themselves) and trying to adjust (change) the other person to try to make (force) them to become more like you and finally comes either acceptance and appreciation for the other person as they truly are (actually, it is how they were, because you probably were not able to change them and still have them liking you) aka love or you don't submit to this maturation and get a divorce or end the relationship.  The time spent in each of these stages will vary because, some of us are too stubborn or stupid to learn the lessons of life.  In our pride of needing to be right, most never get through the attempting to change the other person stage and will continue to move from relationship to relationship.  This is the same period of time if we would only look at changing our self instead of the other person growth and maturity can blossom within us and any relationship.
   We use these same patterns of behavior in most relationships. I have seen it in platonic, love and business relationships.  This is also true in the church world and also how it is with our relationship with God.
   I am afraid that the declaration of our church age, as a whole, may be not that we left our first love, but that we never took the time to find it!
   In our relationship with the Father, we delighted in the deliverance from our problems and guilt through Jesus Christ (attraction).  We regularly attended services, and devoured our Bibles (infatuation).  Then the problems start, we see the faults of others and the short comings of the organizational church, and with our active flesh and pride (and like faults or sins)  start wanting God to change so we don't have to.  Seeing that He doesn't change, we then find another group that will believe differently so we can remain unchanged or leave and abandon the church and/or Him altogether.  We then miss out on the best part of all relationships, where we can actually enjoy not only the other person but our own self.  Here we sit in the divorce stage making up doctrine and beliefs to justify ourselves so we don't have to do the work of change (which really isn't that hard, if you will just submit yourself to Him.  He will do the change in you* and all you need to do is say "Yes".)
  Infatuation is good but, matured love is better!  This is the agape love we hear about, but not see very often.

*More on change later